7 Tips On How To Get A Girlfriend Fast .

7 Tips On How To Get A Girlfriend Fast .

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 I constantly search the internet for dating tips, more particularly :how to find a girlfriend fast.I found this article to be solid advice on the subject.Nearly all people asked the question :"would you like a steady relationship?" answered a resounding YES.This just goes to prove that a relationship that has a "no sell by date" is still very important to most people.In this day and age of instant gratification,like fast food,fast coffee,and one night stands, this would seem a contradiction in terms .It seems that finding real and lasting love is still a priority,although Hollywood would lead us to believe differently. The writer finds that serial dating is just a stepping stone to finding that one perfect partner!

"How To Get a Girlfriend - Seven Tips You Can Use NOW...

"So there I was...

I was standing up there in front of a crowd of eager guys presenting a seminar on how to attract women and how to get a girlfriend, and a strange urge overtook me...

I wanted to ask them a question that just didn't seem "politically correct" to ask a bunch of aspiring "pickup artists."

I kept thinking to myself: Should I...?

And then I did.

I asked the almost unthinkable question to a group of pickup artists...

I asked: "How many of you want a single, steady girlfriend? Just one. Raise your hands..."

And then I held my breath as if I'd just yelled out a cuss word in church.

Then - to my amazement - about 90% of the crowd raised their hands.

And they raised them EAGERLY.

Since that day - over 3 years ago - I've been asking guys this question in almost all my seminars, and the results are always the same. Most of the guys learning the skills of pickup are just learning them to find ONE good woman.

So why do guys work to learn how to be a "pickup artist" and learn all these seduction techniques, when what they really want is just to get a girlfriend?

I believe it's because men have a basic need, and it's illogical, but it is hard-wired in us. It's the need to sexually CONQUER. We want to have the thrill of the victory, overcoming the challenge, and then having our egos boosted with the validation of sexual POWER.

In many ways, there's nothing more addictive to the male mind. This is what makes us men.

And there's also nothing wrong with it, so don't feel guilty.

I was talking to a friend of mine, Jeff, at a cocktail party the other night, and he was discussing his experience of getting good with women, having a lot of women to date, and how he wasn't very happy "dating around."

Yes, I know, sounds crazy, but it's true with almost every guy I meet. Once you get to where you're no longer so obsessed with getting laid and meeting women, you start to realize that what you really want - what would REALLY satisfy you more than anything else is just to find ONE good catch.

Once you've stopped begging, you can then start to become the chooser.

So you want to know how to get a girlfriend?

Okay, here are my...

Seven IMPORTANT Steps to Get a Girlfriend:

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 1) Do not set out to find a girlfriend!

If your priority is solely to get your itch scratched (sexually speaking), you're going to find that you'll scare off a LOT of people.

Your GOAL is not to get a girlfriend, even though you think it is. Your goal is not the END, it's simply the NEXT STEP in the process.

Your goal is to improve your social network - which is like creating a nice strong safety net.

It lowers your loneliness quotient, and it increases your ability to find a good woman in the long run.

A good investigator doesn't look directly for the criminal.

They look for the indicators and evidence that leads them to their most wanted.

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 2) Adopt the attitude of the Interviewer...

QUALIFICATION, Qualification, qualification.

It's all about qualification, my friend. The only way you can maintain a strong and confident attitude out there is to be the chooser - not the chosen.

Think about the difference in these two people: The Interviewer and the Interviewee.

Between being the guy going in and kissing ass and selling yourself to the company to get a job, and being the guy who chooses from them.

If you've ever done the interviewing, you know what it's like. You feel like THE MAN with all the power. It's kind of a rush.

Well, the difference in mindset between the guy that goes out trying to get women interested in him and the guy that goes out to see if any women can impress him is like NIGHT and DAY.
ET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 3) Become a Social Strategist...

Network the hell out of your life.

You need to really sit down and think about who you know, and who they know. And then start getting on their social calendars, one at a time.

Here's a technique that works like a champ. (It's something I'm going to be talking more about in my upcoming program coming in a few months.)

First, just connect with everyone in your network of friends.

Get together with them, have a drink or a lunch, and just reconnect. Make it a point to develop more of a rapport-connection with them, and then get them to think about you whenever they're holding a party or going to a party.

Say something like:

"Hey, this has been great catching up with you, John. By the way, I'm on this kick lately of just going out and socializing, and making sure all my friends have fun. So if you have any parties or social gatherings, drop me a line if you think it would be fun."

Give him your email, give him your cell phone and give him your facebook address. Better yet, have a card made up with JUST this information on it and your first name.

Ba-da-bing. You're now in his loop of social networking. From there, you just bust it out to the next level by making friends with people at every gathering you attend.

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 4) Multiple Streams of Female Income

This is one of the core strategies of my method, and that is that you cannot afford to rely on any ONE method of meeting women. Mostly because if you fail to get that one method to work for you the way you want it to, you'll get blown out of the game, and you're socially dead in the water.

AND your attitude will suffer along with your success.

Dating is EXACTLY like owning stocks - you never put all your eggs in ONE basket. Back when the dot-com bust happened in 2001-2002, all the people who were heavily invested in technology stocks took a serious bath.

Universal rule: Diversify!

Spread your risk over a few good methods and you won't get burned.

(I just watched "Wall Street" again the other day, can you tell?)

Don't go too nuts, because you won't get good at any of them if you do too many, but just pick your top 5 - and then work them like dogs. That's how to get a girlfriend - and FAST.

My top picks?

- Speed dating

- Online dating

- Social networking

- Parties and social events

- Daytime approach

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 5) Know what kind of a woman you really want.

You have to know the exact qualities you're looking for in order to choose a good woman. There are many traits you need to create a good relationship with her - especially if you want to keep her.

One thing you'll see that most pickup artists DO NOT have is the ability to keep a relationship going. They can pickup a woman in a bar, but if you ask them how to get a girlfriend - one that lasts - they'll just tell you to go take another class.

I've been in relationships that lasted from 30 minutes to 5 years, so I do know how to keep a good woman around.

First and foremost is to know WHAT you want, and sometimes that means...

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 6) Date ENOUGH women to know what you really want.

A lot of guys don't date enough women to figure out the qualities that they really want.

In fact, I've never met a guy who dated a lot of women, and then said that he still wants the same things in a woman that he wanted when he first started.

After dating a bunch of women, you start to realize that many of the things you THOUGHT you wanted weren't as important as you thought. And you discover all-new things you really do need.

The big mistake most people (men and women) make is to be in a hurry to get into a relationship because they can't stand dating. It's so painful for these guys to be single that they fall into the first relationship that comes along.

And so they never develop dating skills, they just hope to find someone good before the bad women find them first.

But this is a lot like taking the first job you can get, just to get a job - even though you're not sure you're going to like it. Sure, you may have employment, but you'll just be miserable if you don't make a good choice. And eventually you'll either be fired or quit.

The same is DOUBLY true for women.

Choose poorly and you're going to be a hell of a lot more miserable IN a relationship than out of one.

Remember my universal rule: You're better off alone than with the wrong woman.

A woman has only one role in my life: To make me happier than I was without her. If she isn't doing that, she isn't what I want in a girlfriend.

And neither do you!

And here's the last rule that will guarantee you'll get a girlfriend in no time flat - IF you just use it.

If you want to know how to get a girlfriend - and how I've done it in my life without having to resort to mail-order brides, it's simply this:

GET A GIRLFRIEND TIP 7) Get out there and meet as many people as you possibly can.

I've moved around the country and I've started my life over again 3 times. I moved from upstate New York, to Washington, DC, to Kansas City, to San Francisco. Each time I had to make all new friends.

I learned something that has made all the difference between being lonely and being socially prosperous, and that's this:

If you meet a bunch of people,

... some you will never see again.

Some you will turn into acquaintances.

Some you will turn into friends.

Some you will do business with.

Some you will turn into girlfriends.

But the more people you meet, the more you get of every kind. It's a statistical and social CERTAINTY.

Just like the "Sales Funnel," where you put a hundred people in at the top, and only a few come out the bottom as buyers, so it is in your social life.

It's the most obvious law of numbers there is, and it simply demands that you just get off your ass right now and go meet some new people.

And here's the amazing thing - it doesn't matter HOW you meet them!

Nor does it matter WHO you meet. You can meet old women who will set you up with their daughters or even their grand-daughters.

You'll meet women who introduce you to their cool guy friends, who will then introduce you to an ex-girlfriend or a cousin or a sister's best friends' nanny, who could be your next girlfriend.

You simply DO NOT KNOW how you will get your next girlfriend.

If you want to know my advice on how to get a girlfriend, that's it. Pure and simple.

Treat it like a life-puzzle that you have to figure out. If you can just meet a few people each week, your life will be filled with an abundance that will ASTONISH you.

It will amaze you.

I guarantee it...

If you want to learn the core skills of pickup and attracting women, you owe it to yourself to take a look at my latest fast-start program. Even if the stock market is crazy and unpredictable, one thing is still the same: You can improve your skills with women in just a few hours - and for less that it would cost you for your next date.

The one sure fire way to keep a woman attracted to you is to show her an Alpha Male that has the confidence and attitude that women want...

CLICK HERE TO LEARN THE BASICS OF MY CORE METHOD:

HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND - FAST...

Your friend,



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Carlos Xuma is an expert and his advice  is practical. His tips on how to get a girlfriend fast is backed up by experience.

How To Find Love Through Letter Writing.

 The art of finding love through letter writing has not vanished with the rise in popularity of online dating sites.The truth be told it is a way to take time alone and really thinking of who you are and what you want.
There is no pressure like in a face to face meeting or even texting each other.You can slowly come to know the other person,think about the best response and even delete and rewrite a remark or comment.I found this article describing the advantages of taking it slow .Read it and let me know what you think.

"Falling in Love through Writing

Falling in Love through Writing

Published on December 11, 2011 by Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D. in In the Name of Love

"To send a letter is a good way to go somewhere without moving anything but your heart." Phyllis Theroux
"The one good thing about not seeing you is that I can write you letters." Svetlana Alliluyeva
"The age of technology has both revived the use of writing and provided ever more reasons for its spiritual solace. Emails are letters, after all, more lasting than phone calls, even if many of them r 2 cursory 4 u." Anna Quindlen
Falling in love through letter writing has been going on for hundreds of years. In what sense does it differ from falling in love in the regular way? Is this a good way to fall in love? How relevant is it to modern lovers?
Letter writing as a romantic process was- and to some extent, still is-particularly prevalent during prolonged periods of war when men are far away from home and the only way for them to communicate with loved ones is through letters. Online relationships are an improved version of a writing-based relationship. In the new version, the time gap between writing, sending, receiving, and reading has become almost instantaneous-the sender can receive a reply while still in the same state of emotions she was in when she sent the original message. This is of great emotional significance, as emotions are transitory and involve the urge to act immediately.

How To Find Love Through Letter Writing.

Communication through (offline or online) letters appears to be more suitable for romantic communication than phone conversations. They are typically deeper and in many cases more sincere. Sincerity is a great asset to successful personal relationships and is correlated with a higher degree of intimacy. Although people can more easily be dishonest about themselves in letters, the act of writing encourages people to present a more profound and sincere picture of their true self. This is especially true if the relationship continues and develops further. It is often easier to describe your heart in writing while you are alone than it is when you are talking about your feeling in front of another person. Indeed, self-disclosure in the initial stages of a relationship is often greater in letters than in offline communication. Moreover, unlike phone calls, letters can be reread again and again and thereby enhance romantic responses.Romantic letters are usually written when the person is physically alone, but mentally with another person. Sometimes the writer even knows that the letter will not be sent, since there is no physical way of doing so (as occurred, for example, during the Holocaust) or the writer is not mentally ready to so (as its content may seem risky or too revealing). When we write a letter, we have a sense of being in company, even if we are secluded. When we receive a letter, the feeling that we are not forgotten is prominent as well.

Writing romantic letters to a person you hardly know has certain aspects in common with online romantic communication; these include, for example, the scanty amount of information the partners have about each other at the beginning of the relationship, the significant role of imagination, a reliance on writing skills and verbal communication, spatial separation, discontinuity of communication, and a marginal physical investment. The presence of partial information, and hence the need to fill the informational gap, explains the significant role of imagination both in letter writing and online communication. When someone is not physically present, imagination takes on some of the functions typically fulfilled by perceptual senses.
Letter writing and online communication are based on writing skills and verbal communication and not on external appearance. In offline relationships, two partners can go to a restaurant or even have sex without talking too much to each other. In online relationships, every activity consists essentially of verbal communication. The emphasis on verbal communication forces the participants to enlarge or deepen the scope of their mutual interest.
The long temporal gap between a letter and the reply does not suit the impetuous nature of romantic affairs. A snail-mail affair is also less immediate in the sense that you cannot just speak your mind; you need to find an envelope, a stamp, and a postbox before the (slow) communication can take place.
Interpersonal relationships conducted exclusively via phone conversations have some features in common with online relationships. Telephone conversations often involve sincere self-disclosure, as do online relationships. Like cybersex, phone sex involves no fear of unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. Furthermore, in both types of sexual activity, external appearance is not significant.
Phone communication, however, is closer to face-to-face communication than online communication is. Phone sex does not involve typing but engages with the other person's real voice, whispers, sighs, moans, groans, and other sexually arousing sounds; it involves the immediacy of face-to-face interaction. Phone conversations involve a lesser degree of anonymity-typically, your gender and approximate age are detectable-and hence imagination has a lesser role in such communication. Unlike online communication, in which you choose when and how to respond without psychological pressures, phone communication is more intrusive and insistent. The telephone forces you to respond at a time and in a manner that may be inconvenient for you: it induces a sense of obligation and urgency that is hard to ignore. Moreover, since most regular telephones do not have off switches, this further enhances the sense of urgency in replying to the phone's ring.
It is easier to avoid or defer responding to unpleasant questions in email communication than in phone conversations. An obsessive romantic partner can intrude upon your everyday routine much more by phone than by online communication. Merely pressing a button cannot end intimate phone relationships. Today, with the extensive use of mobile phones, there are even fewer opportunities to escape incoming calls. However, mobile phones do have off switches that enable you to mark the boundary of your private zone and so these calls can be made less intrusive.
Online communication offers the immediacy of the telephone, but, as in letters, it is up to the recipient to choose when to respond-the response does not have to be spontaneous if one does not so wish. This can reduce the stress on the participants.
A relationship based merely upon writing letters or phone conversations is not a real alternative to conventional offline relationships. Accordingly, these means typically supplement such relationships-when those are not feasible or desirable-but do not replace them.
Mobile texting (SMS) continues the text-based revolution of online romantic communication. In both cases, we read a text rather than talk. As compared to mobile texting, online messages are longer, more detailed and profound, and less similar to continuous conversations. In comparison to online communication, mobile texting is more continuous, available, immediate, and spontaneous. Like online communication, mobile texting is not intrusive, but it is less anonymous and less detached. Mobile texting is a very useful and convenient means for flirting, as it suits the superficiality and brevity that characterizes flirting.
To sum up, there are some advantages in writing-based relationships during the initial stages. However, such a relationship cannot replace an offline relationship, although it can complement it. Nonetheless, it is highly likely that in the future the use of writing-based means, such as mobile texting and online communication, for romantic purposes will be significantly greater.
The above considerations can be encapsulated in the following statement that a lover might express: "Darling, as we hardly speak to each other, and you are so shy, you could try to write me a letter in which you tell me how much you love me. ( I hope shyness is the only reason for your current reticence.)"
This post is based in part on my book, Love Online: Emotions on the Internet. "

Falling In Love Through Letter Writing, could be just the push that you need to find love online.The online dating scene becomes what you feel more comfortable with.Take your time and write about your dreams and ambitions.Most important you can take time to be yourself. No pressure!

Starting To Date Again When You Are Over 50.

 Starting to date again when you are over 50 can seem like climbing Mount Everest-impossible!But research shows that online dating is not only  becoming more and more popular ,over 50's find it more acceptable than meeting someone at a bar . It also shows that the technological age and the new online dating trend is not too difficult to adapt to.The over 50's tend to look for a partner rather than a quick fling,so when they venture online this is what they find:Over 50's who try online dating are rewarded with a new partner for the rest of their lives.

Starting To Date Again When You Are Over 50

Baby boomers looking for love online

 By Casey Wian, CNN

 CNN) -- Suzanne Forman enters a swanky Los Angeles restaurant with Todd Grodnick, a blind date she's only spoken to on the phone. The two are among a growing number of baby boomers who are going online to date.
"I mean I can't believe I'm 55," Forman said. "I feel like I'm still 20 or 30 or something. I still have the energy. I still have that spark. But I do have a lot of candles on my cake."
A study conducted for OurTime.com, a dating site catering to baby boomers, found unmarried people over 50 consider companionship more important now than they did during their 20s. But it's often difficult to find a good match through traditional connections such as friends and relatives.
"I was a vegetarian and one of the guys they set me up with took me to a Moroccan restaurant, and he ate raw meat in front of me, right next to me!" Forman recalled.
So Forman joined OurTime, which she said offers a "candy store of people."
"There has been a perfect storm ... of baby boomers who are single, with a growing number ... using the Internet and discovering that it's a way to be connected," said Dr. Gail Saltz, OurTime's relationship expert.
Another customer is Staci Dansey, a 61-year-old Newport Beach, California, real estate agent. "It's like my business, it's a numbers game. The more people I meet, the greater the odds that I will meet a guy who wants to have a loving, warm, serious, committed, monogamous relationship."
After her marriage ended, Dansey said her daughter and daughter-in-law suggested online dating, but she said she was reluctant because she had heard "horror stories."
But dating sites say they offer much better protection against stalkers, scam artists and worse, because they collect background information on clients.
A 2010 survey by eHarmony.com found the Internet is the most popular way for people over 50 to meet and marry.
"I've always thought the idea that the older generation is afraid of technology is overblown, because they now seem to adopt it, and adopt it in numbers just as much as everybody else does," said eHarmony's Dr. Gian Gionzaga.
Vange LeClerc, a widow, and Rob Foss, a divorcé, met through eHarmony in 2008.
"I had been married so long I had kind of forgotten the process," Foss said. "I was like a duck out of water."
LeClerc conceded online dating was "scary," but she said she found the process "less intimidating than going out and meeting someone at a bar."
Now the baby boom couple plan to make their online match permanent, with a Hawaiian wedding next year."

Just because you are over 50 does not mean that you do not need to feel loved.Like Suzanne Forman says in the article" I feel 20 or 30 ."I think that to start dating again when you are over 50 can be the beginning of a new and exciting phase of your life.Give it a try!

Online Dating:Pick Up Artist Training.

 Pick up artist training is becoming more and more popular ,as men and women want to learn to get an online date fast. Obviously the rules for dating have not changed .But if you did not succeed in the real dating scene ,what are your chances of finding an online date?The pick up artist training involves how to get a women to give her number ,what to text,and how to behave when going on a date. Does not sound ground breaking does it? If pick up artist training is popular ,(and it is!)then men and women want and need more information to find the love of their life.

Online Dating:Pick Up Artist Training.

 
 http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business.
By Melanie Abbott Radio 4's You and Yours

With many people looking for a partner preferring to search online than in a bar or club, the web dating business is worth more than £2bn a year worldwide and niche targeting is helping businesses meet customer needs.

One of the fastest growing online dating companies is Global Personals, based in Windsor, which was set up eight years ago.
It currently employs 100 staff and has 14 websites including Just Widower Dating and Just Divorced Singles which cater for very specific markets.
But 85% of Global Personals' income is from selling software for other people to host their own rebranded sites - known as "white-label" sites.
"We provide the technology, customer care and database for other brands to put their label on it and market it to consumers," says founder Ross Williams.
"In the last eight years, we went from nothing to £30m a year in revenues."

It is a good money-spinner for Global Personals as they take half of any revenue generated by the white-label sites.

The service is used by individuals who want to set up a dating business and also by several media companies for their linked dating sites like FHM, Bizarre and Maxim magazines. In total it hosts 6,000 white-label sites.
But industry insiders point to the downside.
Marc Leznick, who runs internet dating conferences for the industry, identifies potential drawbacks: "There are two things. Number one, I'm sharing the revenue. And now, let's say, three or four years pass and I want to sell this business. All those users are the value of the business, but I don't own them - the white-label host does."
'Pick up' training One person who did not want to share his revenue is Richard La Ruina. He runs one of the new crop of courses springing up and advertised online, which teach people how to pick up partners.

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Not all guys who come on the course want to sleep their way through the world. Many guys want to just meet the right person" ”

Dharam Raja Pick Up Artist trainer

Called "Pick Up Artist Training", it is for men looking for women and involves spending two days at "boot camp". It teaches how to secure a woman's number, how to text her, where to go on a date and how to behave. The charge is £779.

Dharam Raja who teaches on the course did it himself three and a half years ago.
"By the end of it, I felt I could go out and meet a woman and take her out on a date and get into a relationship if I wanted one."
Critics have suggested the course concentrates more on picking up women than developing a relationship.
The website bears testimonials like "Managed to pick up three girls in a week."
Dharam rejects this: "If we advertise as 'Come and find your one true soul mate' - for women that might be spot on, but most men would search online for 'How do you meet women?'
"You have to be on top of search terms for such things. Not all guys who come on the course want to sleep their way through the world. Many guys want to just meet the right person."
Matrimonial sites Another specialist target is the Asian market, where sites such as Shaadi.com appeal to people who are more interested in settling down than dating.
The Mumbai-based company claims to have fixed more than two million weddings worldwide since it opened 15 years ago.
The site uses the same search criteria that families would use when trying to arrange a marriage in the traditional way but does everything online.
Sanjay and Sunita met using the site and have been married for eight years.
Sunita says: "I wasn't getting any younger and had already been through a bad marriage where I was formally introduced.
"So this was a platform where the parent aspect was not there, and this would mean it was my decision rather than been influenced by outsiders."
Her husband Sanjay believes matrimonial sites can help bridge the gap between traditional family values and modern dating.
"It still isn't acceptable for people from our community to come home and say 'This is my boyfriend' or 'This is my girlfriend', so sites like this can act as a buffer until that does become the norm."

You And Yours investigates consumer issues daily at 12 noon on BBC Radio 4. Melanie Abbott's investigations into the dating business can be heard from Wednesday 7 December to Friday 9 December. Or catch up later at the above link."

It seems that online dating sites have to bridge traditional ways of finding a bride.But as this becomes the norm people of all cultures will make the paradigm shift towards finding love online.
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